Our lives can get very tangled. We can find ourselves in uncomfortable, emotional places and ask, sometimes in great pain, how did I get here?
Sometimes we need someone to get help from when things get too tangled and we can’t find our way out of the maze. Someone who help with the untangling.
I draw on both contemporary Western and ancient Eastern psychological and philosophical theory.
As an Integrative Counsellor I work with Western models such as:
Psychodynamic – looking at the past to see how we have been formed
TA – seeing how warring ego states within create conflict that is draining and harmful to our whole system
CBT – examining warped logic process that always lead us back to the same place, usually painful
Humanistic – believing that we are all trying, in our own way, to make things better, but this has somehow got twisted out of shape.
My role is to integrate the above models into a way of holding and helping somebody come towards themselves – to begin the process of healing the inner relationship with self.
As a Transpersonal Psychotherapist I use Yoga philosophy and psychology as the main model, plus insights from Sufism, Buddhism and the Tao, to understand deeper aspects of ourselves from insights gained over thousands of years by countless, unnamed people whose only mission was to help humans understand and heal themselves. This viewpoint helps to create a stance from where we can begin to become the witness to our own behaviour and ourselves and draw on our strengths to help understand and heal inner distortions – to further the process of spiritual growth.
While using both of the above I seek to feel where clients experience shame and high levels of self-criticism in order that we can introduce compassion into these areas on an ongoing basis through mindfulness of external triggers and subsequent negative, internal emotions – to detect habitual patterns and self-correct through mindfulness.
As the therapist, I model compassion appropriately, in order that clients can begin to experience it from the outside and then gradually take it on board for themselves. This does not mean an airy-fairy approach. It is rigorous and challenging at times, sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry, and it’s all OK.
I also offer supervision.
If you feel you might benefit from the above approach why not contact me to discuss further.